Sharing Ourselves and Our Beloveds
Klara Lotte & Peter Banki
We live in communities with ourselves, our partners, our lovers, families and neighbours. How to deal with that? How to share ourselves and our beloveds?
This workshop is open for anyone who is interested in the theme. It can be particularly interesting for people who are in a love-relationship or love-relationships, who might live with children, or other adults.
The workshop will start by Klara and Peter sharing personal experiences, and discussing why they think sharing ourselves and our beloveds is important to learn and to practice. There will be questions and answers. After that there will be exercises that are not hands-on.
The aim of the workshop is to generate and explore fantasies, as well as to share them, if you wish, in a daring, or just slightly daring way.
This workshop is held in English
What happens in the workshop?
Klara and Peter will explain their understanding of sharing and being shared as an approach to non-monogamous relationships. If in everyday life we share ourselves and our beloveds in a certain way all the time, then why does it causes such insecurity and stress when it comes to non-monogamy? Klara and Peter will also talk about their own experiences as a couple in this regard. After that, they will invite you to try out some exercises to explore sharing together with your partner.
For whom is the workshop?
This workshop is ideal for people who are in a couple or love-relationship. It is also possible to come as a single. The curious and the brave ones of all genders and orientations are welcome.
Will I need to bring something, is there a dress code, how do I prepare?
There is no dress code. You may come in a sexy costume, if you like.
Is there nudity in the workshop?
There is no nudity in this workshop. It is about exploring the emotions connected to the topic of non-monogamy, rather than the act itself.
Klara Lotte is an artiste, a furniture-trainer, an art-therapist, an editor of a book about the possibilities and limits of forgiveness, based in Berlin.
Klara loves to question, explore and practice the connections and possibilities of humans and objects, dance, sex and language, society, sex and love, plants, animals and Eros, to name a few. As for example in her thesis about the emerging notion of comfort and its consequences for the furniture and the social and love life in the 18th century in France or in performing in Felix Ruckert's "Farm".
She believes that 4 factors are extremely important for how we experience ourselves and what surrounds us, including persons we meet, see or hear. Our past, where we come from, the last 5 seconds or our childhood. Our expectation, how we think the world and the people, for example the people we love, are and might react. Our motivation, what drives us, our vision or aim in this moment of our life. And our attention, where our experience is directed in any moment, for example while sitting in a bus, towards a book we are reading or towards signs of violence in urban spaces. Changing one of those 4 can completely change our reality. Like changing our expectation concerning the shape of the clitoris.
Peter Kimberly Banki, Ph.D founded the School of Really Good Sex in 2015. Prior to that he curated Xplore - Festival of the Art of Lust in Sydney from 2011-2013. He says: “when you are intimate with someone, you see who they are. And that’s when it’s really exciting. Much more than their competence or whatever, it’s their being. Sex opens up and shows you a being at their most open and vulnerable, whatever their role.”
Peter has an extensive background in Iyengar yoga, dance and the martial arts (Capoeira Angola). His somatic and movement practice forms the basis of his work in the sex-positive field.
Peter has also been a scholar and teacher of European philosophy and literature for much of his adult life. Philosophers such as Friedrich Nietzsche and Georges Bataille, Anne Dufourmantelle, Avital Ronell and Jean-Luc Nancy have most inspired him in his thinking about sexuality and eroticism. He holds a Ph.D in German studies from New York University (September, 2009). His book The Forgiveness To Come: the Holocaust and the Hyper-Ethical came out recently with Fordham University Press. He is currently affiliated with the Philosophy Research Initiative at Western Sydney University. Articles about Peter's work on The Festival of Really Good Sex have been featured in many news outlets, including The Guardian, Archer Magazine, ABC Radio National and news.com. He has also been interviewed about the Festival of Death and Dying, which he also founded and directs, on ABC Radio and the Sydney Morning Herald. His work on apology and forgiveness has been featured on 2SER and on the philosophers’ zone on ABC Radio National.
A selection of Peter's academic publications can be found at www.peterbanki.com